First, let me state -- as I did in the previous note -- that while I do play with cross dressing at times, I'm more "gender fluid," living 98% of the time at the very masculine end and drifting along a continuum away from masculinity to varying degrees, almost never attempting to "pass" as female. I'm not talking about cross dressing here, though since women have access to any and all fashion, any movement away from strictly masculine is going to end up in female territory in short order. In addition, women already inhabit the arena of sexual display that I'm targeting, so it's natural that much, if not most, of what I contemplate here was created for women.
Also, I'm not talking about re-writing social norms around clothing. When I consider these opportunities for expression, my thought is that they take place in very small and intimate private gatherings. This isn't a treatise on changing corporate dress codes or even club culture. But if I can help people to imagine something a little different at a 20-person social at a person's home, or a visit to a small play party, then that would be a lovely start.
So what are the elements of sexual "packaging" that I'm talking about? It shouldn't be a surprise: tight and revealing clothing, shiny and thin fabrics, lifting and separating, trussing up and shaping, exposure and vulnerability, sacrifice of comfort for visual appeal. Women take these things as granted. To men they are alien.
There are (wonderful) differences between men and women, of course. Men don't need support or even coverage in the chest area, but we don't have that wonderful and bedazzling decolletage to display under the thinnest possible guise, either. While women are encouraged to enhance their "assets" -- even taking on elective surgery to gain the most visual advantage -- men typically are expected to completely hide their equipment. But isn't it more empowering for women if they can glance at a man and see how he stacks up? She can determine for herself what her preferences are and priorities, but there is power in having the information available with no personal risk or investment. At this point, I'm going to set aside the "Ew, that's gross" sentiment as an artifact of patriarchy dutifully perpetuated by some and ask only the grown-ups to continue.
Another huge difference is that men are hairy. As my mind wanders away from my grunting masculinity, I develop a desire to shed some of this fur, to enjoy the sensuality of slick and smooth skin. This is not easy to achieve and is even harder to maintain. I'm going to accept it as possible for the moment, though, in order to move the image forward. I have accomplished it in the past and practice it daily with my scalp and face.
While surveying the world for sources of fashion that could be adopted for the uses I've outlined, I ended up with several fashion items to start with:
Hot Shorts: Brief and tight shorts that cover everything (tightly), but not by much. The defining feature is an almost complete lack of leg covering, no more than 1" inseam. Styles cut too low may not leave room for a guy's "equipment." Preferred if there are no pockets and no zips or buttons. Metallic and bright colors attract attention. Obviously, if the shorts are tight enough, underwear would be out of the question and a bit of an affront to the concept.
Transparent, Semi-transparent, or Mesh Tops: Taking advantage of men's flatter chest and lack of social restriction on visibility of male nipples, being vague or half-hearted about coverage actually turns maleness into an advantage for self display. Transparent latex could work well, as well as gauzy and shimmery fabrics. Anything structured to separate breasts -- underwires, halters, triangle tops, etc. would look more like cross dressing than male display.
Propped Foot: This is one I have not figured out. Stilettos are solidly into female fashion, and guys rarely look attractive in them. A wedge or chunk may be better. Defining the legs and ass is a wonderful effect, as is the vulnerability of being stood up on toes. But men are already taller than women, so this could be a bit of overkill. Any ideas on this would be appreciated. What to do about the shoooooz?!
Accessories: As a submissive, I love the idea of classy collars and cuffs. The thin metal style -- stainless steel, for example -- would look amazing in this mode, more like "locking jewelry" than a heavy shackle. "Trailer hitch." (Look it up.) I do think that a VERY small amount of carefully considered eyeliner, mascara, and clear lip gloss could be a nice addition, though I'm not a fan of full makeup on men. It typically looks like stucco over ancient leather. Very small amounts, though, could be beneficial accenting. Thinning eyebrows would be a very good idea.
Notice the preference for no pockets. One key feature to make this enjoyable to the wearer is to have no way to hide, no place to put nervous hands, and no ability to carry wallet, money, ID, keys, etc. I like the idea of putting an exclamation point behind the word Vulnerable!
In searching for these elements, I've found a handful of examples of the ideas well implemented. Again, these are modeled by women because the male market is, maybe, two people including me. But insert your favorite shaved submissive guy into the images:
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| Simple and clean look, could be accentuated with nude-colored hose? |
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| Love this whole look... wet and slippery and nothing hidden. |
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| Nice top that hides nothing. Time to get my nipples pierced? |
Those are some general ideas. I've discussed these thoughts with a couple of Dommes who generally like the idea in theory. It's one of those things that could work or bomb, depending on implementation and the energy thrown off by the wearer. It also absolutely demands physical fitness on the part of the guy being "packaged." No beer gut or man breasts would be even slightly tolerable here, another delicious reversal for a guy to find himself in.
This is not a "manly" look. In fact, it's exactly the opposite, which is part of the reason I like it so much. The idea is to be pleasing and pleasant, sexually vulnerable and submissive. Some women may like having such guys around, though the attraction may or may not be purely animal. Other women may feel empowered by a guy taking on this role. Still others might hate the idea, feel threatened or be offended.
I would really like to hear from women about a few things:
1) Do you like the concept of some few males being presented as eye candy for the enjoyment of women? (Some men may enjoy guys dressed like this, too, which is fine... but that's another discussion.)
2) Which elements of the proposed fashion do you find appealing? What could be changed to enhance your enjoyment?
3) Do you have ideas towards the general goal that might "fill out" the concept a bit more? What would titillate you if you found a guy wearing it at a social engagement of kinky people?
Please help me flesh out these thoughts. I'd like to make an attempt to bring it to reality at some point, and the more information I have from others to balance out the fantasy in my own head, the more enjoyable it will be for everyone.
In the mean time, I'll keep looking for ways to smash assumptions and wreck social convention... but in the most polite possible way.
QL
