BDSM Checklist

Quietlisten
Last Update: 10/25/2010


Key:
Yes - Have done it
No - Have never done it
Rate - If have done it, rating:

Ratings:
1 - Disliked intensely
2 - Gave no pleasure
3 - Was just okay
4 - Liked it
5 - Extremely enjoyed

Would You Like to Do:
A - Never
B - No Desire
C - Forced
D - Maybe
E - Yes
F - Fetish Need

	Yes	No	Rate	Never	A	B	C	D	E
Abrasion (scraping, sanding)		x			x
Age play (not pedophilia)		x			x
Anal play	x		4					x
Anal plugs - Small	x		3				x
Anal plugs - Medium	x		4					x		Makes me feel invaded / violated. :)
Anal plugs - Large		x				x
Anal plugs - public under clothes		x					x
Anal sex		x						x		Being taken with a strapon is a HUGE fantasy, but it carries a lot of weight for the relationship. It's beyond just "play."
Animal roleplay		x						x		Interested in pony play. Would like to be hitched to a woman's cart.
Arm and leg sleeves (binders)		x						x		This is HOT, but my shoulders are fragile; both have been rebuilt through PT.
Asphyxiation		x		x
Auctioned for Charity		x				x
Ball stretching		x			x					Would do this over time for a Domme to whom I was committed.
Bathroom permission control		x				x
Beating hard		x					x			I've been told I'll make a good pain slut; I want to find out.
Beating soft		x						x
Bestiality (sex with animals)		x		x						Ew.
Biting (being bitten)		x			x
Blindfolds	x		4					x
Bondage - light	x		5						x
Bondage - heavy		x						x		I've never been in inescapable bondage and want to experience it badly
Bondage - all day/multi day		x					x			I'm curious about extended scenes, but I want to learn more first.
Boot worship		x						x		Huge fantasy: licking boots of a powerful woman.
Branding		x		x						There may be a relationship in which I would accept this, but I can't imagine it now.
Breast bondage		n/a
Breast fucking		n/a
Breast whipping		x					x
Breath Control (choking)		x		x
Breath Control (mild restriction)		x			x
Cages/Cells/Closets (locked inside of)	x		3					x		I'm more interested in the relationship in which she has the right to cage me than the cage itself.
Caning - English		x				x				Don't know about this one, but willing to learn… (the hard way?)
Caning - sensation		x						x
Catheterization		x			x					Not big on medical in general.
Chains (bound with)		x						x		Yes, please! Actually, it's the real security of chain that is attractive.
Chamber-pot use		x			x					Ew.
Chastity device/belts	x		4					x		I have a CB-6000, but have had problems sleeping in it. I like the idea; the execution is not easy. LOVE daily wear and would like to experience having my keys taken.
Chauffeuring (driving)	x		4					x		Ex GF loved having me drive her around. I enjoyed being told (not asked) where to go.
Chores (domestic service/housework)	x		4					x		I have a working maid's uniform and I'm not afraid to use it.
Chosen clothing for	x		4					x		I like knowing I look the way she wants me to look.
Chosen food for	x		3			x				I don't get anything out of this, but I've done it.
Clamps - labia/clit area		n/a
Clothespins	x		3					x		Standard issue. Enjoyable tool. :) Never done a zipper, though. Poor me.
Cock worship		x			x					This would be very advanced and part of a VERY solid relationship.
Collars - worn in private	x		5					x		I hope I can earn one some day. I take them very seriously and don't like using them for play unless that's really important to the Domme.
Collars - worn in public		x				x				Some are "passable," but on men in particular it must be done carefully.
Contract slave		x					x			Scary; can't really imagine this in real life.
Corsets		x						x		Oh… I so want a real shaping corset so I can wear nicer dresses.
Cross dressing	x		5						x	Yep. Still ambivalent about the wig and makeup, though. I'm not pretty in any way.
Cuffs - leather	x		4					x		Mmmmmm…… leather.
Cuffs - metal		x						x		Mmmmmm…… metal.
Cunnilingus (giving)	x		5						x	I'm careful about intimacy with a Domme. This is wonderful within a bf/gf relationship; one of my favorite things.
Cunnilingus (receiving oral)		n/a
Cutting - Blood play		x		x						Ew.
Daily diary		x			x
Diapers		x			x					Does ZERO for me.
Dilation		n/a
Dildos - vaginal		n/a
Dildos - anal	x		4					x		Next to being plugged, probably the nicest thing you can have inserted.
Double penetration		x						x		By dildos, yes, please.
Ear plugs	x		3				x			I like having senses taken away, but it's part of something bigger.
Edge play (risk taking)		x			x					Depends on the "risk."
Electricity - Internal (egg or probe)		x				x				Electricity scares me… please be careful!
Electricity - TENS unit		x				x				Okay with this, but again… careful.
Electricity - Violet Wand		x			x					Not high on my wants list, but I'd be okay with it if approached carefully.
Enemas - for cleansing		x			x					Not into it, but I understand its need as part of anal play.
Enemas - retention/training		x			x					Don't get it.
Exercise - forced/required		x			x					I do this to myself… no fetish component to me.
Erotic dancing		x			x					I don't dance well and feel sorry for anyone watching.
Examinations		x					x			Depends on what she gets out of it.
Exhibitionism (before friends)		x					x			Maybe… depends on the situation (prefer not to show genitals) and who.
Exhibitionism (before strangers)		x		x						No, thanks.
Eye contact restrictions		x					x			Could be part of protocol.
Face slapping		x					x			Can be erotic as part of power exchange.
Fantasy gang rape		n/a								I can get raped?
Fantasy rape play		n/a
Fellatio (giving head to a Man)		x			x					Could happen… but only within one hell of a committed relationship.
Finger Claws		x			x
Fire play		x			x					Not exciting to me.
Fisting - anal		x			x					Ew.
Fisting - vaginal		n/a
Following orders	x		5						x	Yes, Ma'am. I get SERIOUSLY off on opportunities to obey.
Foot worship		x						x		Not powerful, but symbolic, so I'm interested.
Forced dressing		x							x	I'd like to explore this with someone I know and trust. It's a difficult thing emotionally.
Forced feminization		x							x	Same as previous.
Forced homosexuality		x		x
Forced masturbation	x		3			x
Forced nudity		x					x			Sure. Why not.
Forced servitude		x				x				Hard for it to be "forced" when I want it so badly.
Gags - bit		x						x		Yep… wanna try.
Gags - cloth		x					x			Okay… whatever.
Gags - inflatable		x					x			Can get scary.
Gags - phallic	x		5					x		Yes, please.
Gags - rubber ball	x		4					x		:)
Gags - tape	x		3			x				Sticky.
Genital sex (a la vache/doggie style)	x		4					x		Puts me in the dominant position, but I might do it anyway. ;)
Golden showers (urinate on)	x		2		x					If it really, really turned her on…
Gor Slave Training (positions)		x					x			Not into it beyond the structure.
Group play - gang bang (multi men)		x			x					Prefer a more personal experience.
Group play - multiple women + man		x			x					Same as previous.
Group play - Orgy		x			x					Same as previous.
Hair pulling		n/a								Well, if it's head hair you're after, you are out of luck.
Hairbrush Spankings		x					x			Discipline can be hot.
Harems (serving with other subs)		x					x			Would take a hell of a Domme to pull off well, but could be hot.
Harnessing - leather	x		5					x		LOVE my slave harness.
Harnessing - rope		x						x		Very curious
High heel wearing	x		5						x	*whimper*
High heel worship		x						x		God, yes.
Homage with tongue (licking)	x		3					x		Well… gf/bf situation, sure.
Hoods (full head)		x						x		Want to try this. Ohhhhh, the control, the dehumanization.
Hot wa - dripping on body/genitals		x					x			Experimented with myself and don't get what the fuss is about.
Hot waing - hair removal		x				x				Uncomfortable, but could be useful in feminization.
Human puppy-dog play		x			x					No interest unless it gets her totally off.
Humiliation in private		x						x		Power… must have it taken.
Humiliation in public		x			x					Be very careful here…
Hypnotism		x			x					The idea is hot, it's just not real.
Ice cubes		x						x		Sure… dammit. *shiver*
Infantilism (baby play)		x			x					Not into age play.
Initiation rites		x			x					Depends on what it is. Not ready to ge hung by a meat hook right now, thank you.
Injections		x		x						No needles, please. I take injections for medical reasons so they are NOT eroticized at all.
Interrogations		x				x				Curious… not ready for this extremity yet.
Kidnapping		x					x			Again, curious.
Kneeling	x		4					x		May I?
Knife play (no blood)		x			x
Leather restraints	x		4						x	Oh… nice. The squeak of leather under tension.
Leather (wearing)		x						x		Love the smell. Like to see it on others.
Lecturing for misbehaviors		x				x
Lingerie (wearing)	x		5						x	Tough to really pull off with a guy's build, but I love the sensation, particularly satin.
Manacles & Irons		x						x		Can be hot. Like the reality of the bond.
Manicures - giving		x						x		Service is hot.
Manicures - receiving		x					x
Mantra and meditation		x			x					I meditate anyway, so it's not erotic to me.
Massage - giving	x		4					x		Service is hot.
Massage - receiving	x		5					x		Okay, so I like getting massaged… a LOT. Who doesn't?
Masturbation	x		5						x	Yes, this is a tool for a smart Domme.
Medical scenes		x				x				Prefer to avoid if possible. Could learn to like it, just don't right now.
Milking (made to produce breast milk)		n/a
Modeling for erotic photos		x					x			Would need a high degree of trust and control over the pictures, at least at first.
Mummification - elastic wrap		x			x
Mummification - saran wrap		x				x
Name change		x		x						In scene, sure. Legal… not so sure.
Nipple clamps	x		3				x			Damn things HURT!
Nipple Piercing		x					x			In a long-term relationship, I might consider this.
Nipple Play - Pulls, Tugs, Twists	x		4					x		Sure. Why not.
Orgasm control	x		4					x		Power. :)
Orgasm denial	x		4				x			More power.
Outdoor scenes	x		4				x			Carefully done, can be fun.
Pain - mild		x						x
Pain - severe		x					x			Want to find my threshholds.
Pearl shower (cum on face)		x		x
Pedicures & Foot massages (giving)		x						x		More service.
Pedicures & Foot massages (rec'vng)		x					x			Never had one. Are they nice?
Personality modification		x			x					Not sure about this one.
Phone sex		x					x			If it gets the Domme off, sure.
Piercing (perm)		x			x
Piercing (temp)		x			x					Careful.
Pony play		x						x		Yes, please.
Prison scenes		x				x
Prostitution, real or fantasy		x				x				Fantasy gigolo with a female "pimp" could be hot.
Punishment scene		x						x		I'm working through how much I want a scene and how much I want a relationship with punishment being real.
Pussy whipping		n/a
Pussy worship	x								x	Mmmmmmm… In a gf/bf situation, hot, hot, hot.
Riding crops	x		5					x		Very few things say "authority" better than a crop, especially a well-weilded one.
Riding the horse (crotch torture)		x			x
Rimming (oral/anal play) - receiving		x				x
Rimming (oral/anal play) - giving	x		3			x
Rituals		x						x		I see this as connecting with the Domme. Love it.
Religious scenes		x				x				I'm not religeous and might break out in laughter at it.
Roleplaying		x						x		Fun, fun! The possibilities are endless. I'll see where I can list some.
Rope bondage		x						x		Lots of setup time, but I've been told that it's well worth it.
Rope Bondage - Intricate (Japanese)		x						x		Want to try it.
Rubber/latex clothing (wearing)		x						x		If it turns her on, I'm all about it.
Scarification (cutting,making scars)		x		x						Nope
Scat (brown showers)		x		x						Nope
Scratching - receiving		x			x
Scratching - giving		x			x
Sensory deprivation		x						x		As part of a power transfer, awesome.
Serving as a maid or ashtray	x		5						x	Maid, maybe holding an ash tray. Shouldn't surprise that I have a satin uniform.
Serving as furniture		x						x		Sure. Why not.
Serving as art		x						x		Okay.
Serving other Doms (supervised only)		x					x			Once on solid footing with a Domme, this would be easier.
Sexual deprivation		x			x					No thanks, unless it's part of something larger.
Shared (given to another only temp)		x				x				Careful…
Shaving (depilation)	x		5					x		Love to be shaved.
Sleep deprivation		x			x					Nope. Hurts too bad in a soul-eating way.
Slutty clothing	x		5					x		Sure. Why not.
Spande clothing	x		5						x	Yes, please! Big fetish.
Spanking - hand		x						x		As part of discipline, fine.
Spanking - leather slappers		x						x		See above.
Spanking - wooden paddles		x						x		See above.
Spanking - (OTK) Over The Knee		x						x		See above.
Speculums		?
Speech Restrictions, what and when..		x						x		Could be hot, depending on if it makes the Domme feel powerful.
Spreader Bars	x		4					x		Yep.
Standing in corner (punishment)	x		4						x	Can be very hot, especially if the Domme sees it as a demonstration of her authority.
Stocks (head & hands)		x					x
Straight jackets		x						x		I love me.
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on)	x		4						x	Need to be careful with this, but it could be hot within a trusting relationship.
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by)		x							x	Same as above.
Strap-on-dildos (wearing)		x			x
Strapping (full body beating)		x					x
Suction Cups		x			x
Suspension - inverted		x						x		Would love to try this.
Suspension - horizontal		x						x		See above.
Suspension - upright		x						x		See above.
Swallowing semen	x		3		x					Only my own!
Swallowing urine		x		x						Ew.
Swapping (with one other couple)		x			x
Swinging (multiple couples)		x			x
Switching roles (Top/bottom)		x			x
Tattooing (inking)		x		x						No!
Teasing		x					x			Meh.
Thumb cuffs (metal)		x					x
Tickling		x				x
Total Power Echange (TPE)		x						x		Very curious but see the difficulties. Of course, depends totally on the nature of the relationship.
Triple penetration		n/a
Uniform (wearing)	x		5						x	Maid uniform. Yay!
Vampire Gloves		?
Verbal humiliation		x						x		Can be very hot.
Vibrator - anal	x		4					x		Sure. Why not.
Vibrator - egg/internal	x		4					x		Have one. Want a remote controlled one. Yikes!
Vibrator - genital		x						x
Videotaped Scenes - watching	x		4					x
Videotape Recording of you		x		x						Not right now.
Voyeurism		x					x
Water Torture/Sports		x		x
Wartenburg Pinwheel		x					x
Wearing symbolic jewelry		x						x		For the right Domme, sure!
Weight control		x		x
Whipping - cat of 9		x						x		Very curious.
Whipping - flogger		x						x		Very curious.
Whipping - single tail		x						x		Very curious.
Whipping - general		x						x		Very curious.
Wrestling		x			x					*shrug*